Ever have a day when you just feel bad? When the afternoon hits, and for no good reason you just get down.
I don’t think anyone is immune.
Unfortunately some of us don’t have the luxury of being able to descend into a pit of despair and self-pity and lie in bed for a week to think about it…. As much as we might like to from time to time!
I learned this lesson at a young age, watching my single mother put aside all her own terrible days and get on with raising three kids, even though I am sure that she would have loved to disappear to a tropical Island at some point and deal with those shitty feelings properly. When you have no money and three active, growing and hungry kids, you do what you have to do.
Now, myself, without being able to disappear from sight, with multiple businesses to run that are very busy and constantly growing. I have to look at ways to get out of the foul mood that for apparently no good reason, came over me this afternoon.
Personally, I firmly believe that you are what you do. Not what you say you are, not what you intend to do, what you actually do. So I always start there, a quick audit of my own week will reveal that in fact, this week I have dropped the ball on a couple of things that bother me… (And what I should do to fix them).
Each week I could choose to be happy on the balance of these external factors…. But what happens if I end up with multiple days, weeks, months with more negative external energy!? I would, as many would, find it hard to keep going with the same enthusiasm, effectiveness and vigour after a while.
To deal with the bad days, the bad feelings, the general feeling of dread that sometimes randomly rears its ugly head. I focus on the one thing I have control over.
I can control myself and what I can do. I know that I am so tied to my purpose and end goal, that the way to get out of the funk is to get the things done that need doing. To catch up on anything that is behind and build the space into my day tomorrow to get into the next round of tasks with a clear head. I am also aware that in order to achieve uncommon success, you need uncommon effort.
It’s now 1am and I wanted to catch the moment. Because there is no reason to leave your good feelings in the hands of anyone else, any more than you should leave your bad feelings in the hands of anyone else.
Look in the mirror. You just keep being you. Be honest with yourself, know that you are always doing what needs to be done on the path to your end goal. If you aren’t doing something, don’t make excuses, make amends. Make progress. Make goals and make yourself happy. Then all the nice words of encouragement are just an enormous bonus!
I finished up a bunch of work, wrote down what I have to do for tomorrow and looked at my whiteboard that has my end game written in bold across the top.
To create extraordinary positive change in the world by helping others make ordinary positive change.
Now who wouldn’t feel better after that? We all have bad days. We are all in control of how we deal with them. Work out what works for you and take control of that, and remember…
Just Be Nice.
It has come to my attention over the last few years that there is a bunch of men out there that aren't quite sure how they should be conducting themselves around women.
It doesn't matter if you are online, on an app, or in person, there are some things that we need to stand up and take responsibility for as gentlemen!
Abusing women in person, on Tinder, Twitter, groping people in clubs, generally being pests. Its not ok, and its not funny, mostly it just results in women being scared and wary of men.
I propose that as a gender we just agree that a handful of things aren't ok! I will be illustrating them over a couple of VLOG's so there is no confusion.
You don't have to marry every person you go on a date with, and freedom of speech gives you the absolute right to think and speak your mind however you feel fit. It does not however mean you can just abuse whoever you like and try to make people feel scared and terrible because you're having a bad day. With permission, feel free to do whatever you guys are down with! Without permission..... Just Be Nice. Stop the unsolicited dick pics, abuse and grabbing. We can do better!
With all the problems that we have in the world currently, this is an easy place to make a huge adjustment, working to help women feel safe no matter where they are, what they are wearing, how much they've had to drink and what they are doing.
Ironically, in a world where women feel safe and comfortable around men... Dating and striking up conversations would probably be easier! If you aren't one of the bad ones, that's fantastic! The good ones need to speak up and put an end to it. Clearly we need the men to stand up and say something because women have been doing it for years and it appears to fall on deaf ears.
Gentlemen lets end dance-floor creeping, Tinder-abuse and generally being idiots around women!!
Watch Part One Here!
Check the VLOG out here and let me know what you think, and Just Be Nice!
- Josh Reid Jones
Josh Reid Jones - Founder of The Just Be Nice Project and Odin Sports