Ever have a day when you just feel bad? When the afternoon hits, and for no good reason you just get down.
I don’t think anyone is immune.
Unfortunately some of us don’t have the luxury of being able to descend into a pit of despair and self-pity and lie in bed for a week to think about it…. As much as we might like to from time to time!
I learned this lesson at a young age, watching my single mother put aside all her own terrible days and get on with raising three kids, even though I am sure that she would have loved to disappear to a tropical Island at some point and deal with those shitty feelings properly. When you have no money and three active, growing and hungry kids, you do what you have to do.
Now, myself, without being able to disappear from sight, with multiple businesses to run that are very busy and constantly growing. I have to look at ways to get out of the foul mood that for apparently no good reason, came over me this afternoon.
Personally, I firmly believe that you are what you do. Not what you say you are, not what you intend to do, what you actually do. So I always start there, a quick audit of my own week will reveal that in fact, this week I have dropped the ball on a couple of things that bother me… (And what I should do to fix them).
Each week I could choose to be happy on the balance of these external factors…. But what happens if I end up with multiple days, weeks, months with more negative external energy!? I would, as many would, find it hard to keep going with the same enthusiasm, effectiveness and vigour after a while.
To deal with the bad days, the bad feelings, the general feeling of dread that sometimes randomly rears its ugly head. I focus on the one thing I have control over.
I can control myself and what I can do. I know that I am so tied to my purpose and end goal, that the way to get out of the funk is to get the things done that need doing. To catch up on anything that is behind and build the space into my day tomorrow to get into the next round of tasks with a clear head. I am also aware that in order to achieve uncommon success, you need uncommon effort.
It’s now 1am and I wanted to catch the moment. Because there is no reason to leave your good feelings in the hands of anyone else, any more than you should leave your bad feelings in the hands of anyone else.
Look in the mirror. You just keep being you. Be honest with yourself, know that you are always doing what needs to be done on the path to your end goal. If you aren’t doing something, don’t make excuses, make amends. Make progress. Make goals and make yourself happy. Then all the nice words of encouragement are just an enormous bonus!
I finished up a bunch of work, wrote down what I have to do for tomorrow and looked at my whiteboard that has my end game written in bold across the top.
To create extraordinary positive change in the world by helping others make ordinary positive change.
Now who wouldn’t feel better after that? We all have bad days. We are all in control of how we deal with them. Work out what works for you and take control of that, and remember…
Just Be Nice.
Josh Reid Jones - Founder of The Just Be Nice Project and Odin Sports